The Killer Compliment Give`s Manual

Posted on February 12, 2008
Filed Under Communication, Psychology

What is the Killer Compliment? It is commenting on some very personal and speciﬁc quality you spot in someone. A Killer Compliment is not “I like your tie” or “You’re a very nice person.”
A Killer Compliment is more like “What exquisite eyes you have,” (very speciﬁc) or “You have a wonderful air of honesty about you,” (very personal).
Learning how to give such a killer compliment is one of the best things to have in your social tool belt. It can do wonders for relationships. It can take them to the next level and open doors you never dreamed possible.

- Deliver your Killer Compliment to the recipient in private. If you are standing with a group of four or ﬁve people and you praise one woman for being ﬁt, every other woman feels like a barrel of lard. If you tell one man, he has wonderful carriage, every other feels like a hunchback. You also make the blushing recipient uncomfortable.

- Make your Killer Compliment credible. For example, I am tone-deaf. If I am forced to sing even a simple song like “Happy Birthday,” I sound like a sick pig. If anyone in earshot were foolish enough to tell me they liked my voice, I would know it was hogwash.

- Confer only one Killer Compliment per half year on each recipient. Otherwise you come across as insincere, groveling, obsequious, pandering, and a thoroughly manipulative person.

- At the end of the conversation, look the individual right in the eye. Say his or her name and proceed to curl all toes with the Killer Compliment.

- Just like a cannon, if you don’t use the Killer Compliment corectly, it can backﬁre.

- Really believe what you say - People, especially women, are equipped with the greatest BS detectors in the world, even more advanced than the ones they have at Langley. If you really don’t believe what you are saying, they’ll instantly pick up on the insincerity and you’ll do way more harm than good. All your future compliments will now be in question of authenticity and sincerity.

- Don’t expect anything back - When you give the killer compliment, don’t follow up with a favor to ask. It will seem as if you were just buttering him up for something else in return. This will negate all the effort you put into the killer compliment. Give it to them when you are not asking for anything in return. Give freely and expect nothing in return.