Sex Etiquette: 10 Sexual Lessons to be Learned

7 May 2009 One Comment

While sex with your man or women doesn’t have to be polite and demure, there are a few rules, lessons that you should follow for better sex etiquette. Here are some helpful rules for better manners before, during and after sex:

Rule no.1 Never make use of force. It is never the thing to do. Not if you sex etiquette 2 Sex Etiquette: 10 Sexual Lessons to be Learned are married; not if you have previously agreed to have sex; not if all clothes are off. It’s OK to say “NO WAY.” At any point in a sexual relationship, either individual has the right to say, “I think we should stop.”

Rule no.2 Respect the right of another person to say “no.” When a person says “no” he/she is not saying, “Try harder so I can feel swept away.” When a person feels he/she has gone far enough, it is not an invitation to be seduced.

Rule no.3 Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you. Always ask the question: “Would I want someone to do this to me, to my sister, to my brother or to a friend?”

Rule no.4 A couple should recognize that public expression of sexual intimacy might embarrass or offend others. [Get a room!] When expressing oneself sexually, one must respect the sensitivities of others. Your sexual orientation has no bearing on this.

Rule no.5 It is usually not appropriate to talk about an intimate sexual relationship with a third party. Bragging about sexual conquests can cause a great deal of pain and hurt feelings.

Rule no.6 Parents should respect the needs of their children for privacy sex etiquette1 224x300 Sex Etiquette: 10 Sexual Lessons to be Learned with regard to what they are doing sexually. Similarly, children should respect their parents’ needs for privacy in this area. Parents and their children may choose to bring into a conversation a given sexual experience but this should not be an expectation. Generally, no pressure should be placed on a parent or child to reveal information about intimate sexual relationships.

Rule no. 7 Both partners in a dating relationship should be prepared to accept responsibility for their actions. Before intercourse both partners should ask themselves, “How would I feel and what would I expect if …..?” The consequences of a sexual relationship (sexually transmitted diseases [STD], pregnancy, and/or long-term issues like pelvic pain and infertility) often fall more heavily on the woman involved. But again, sexual orientation has no exclusive bearing on this.

Rule no.8 Given the serious potential consequences of sexual intercourse, it is appropriate to inquire about infections a potential partner might have at the present time or might have had in the past.

Rule no.9 Switch off your cell phone and TV and keep your bedroom off limits from anything that can take away from the pleasure of sex. Perfect lovemaking demands the focus of all your senses.

Rule no.10 Be constantly aware of each other’s responses and mindful of what gives him/her pleasure. Sex is not wholly about orgasm, but an orgasmic destination is still a very desirable place to reach. Help each other achieve it.