How To Stimulate a Sense of Woman

16 February 2009 2 Comments

Stimulating women is about more than just pressing the right buttons in the right order. Women need to feel that a partner is sensitive to their needs and wishes. Spend time understanding what your partner likes and doesn’t like. Without this knowledge you will never be able to truly stimulate your partner.

So how do you best stimulate these other four senses in a way that
will turn her on?

1. Touch her very very gently and slowly. Use the very tips of your
fingers. Run them over her arms, neck, shoulders, lips, hands, legs,
feet… everywhere. If you avoid her breasts, crotch, and ass, you’ll
even get her more turned on for later (Remember anticipation? It
will drive her crazy… “When is he going to touch my tits?”).

2. Kiss her sensually. Let the first kiss be very light… almost a brush.
Then wait (anticipation). Kiss her 100 times on the neck and
shoulders. Suck on her lips gently. Lick her just a tad on the neck,
shoulders, and lips. Think eating an ice-cream cone, then tone it
back a bit. Like you’re tasting her a little each time.

3. Feed her little bits of things that are sexy. Try strawberries,
chocolate, champagne. Also, go out and get yourself some of that
‘Kama Sutra Oil’ at the adult store. The flavored kind not only
tastes good, it HEATS UP if you put it on and breathe on it.

4. Smell her. Smell her neck and shoulders for about 5-10 minutes
STRAIGHT. No kissing. No licking. Just smelling for 5-10 minutes.
Gently run your nose and lips over her shoulders and neck smelling
her. Say “Mmmmm… you smell good. I’m just going to smell you
for awhile.” You’re going to love how she reacts to this.

5. Talk sexy to her. Men like to hear “I want it harder big boy”…
women like to hear “Your lips feel so soft and sexy. I love the way
your lower lip feels when I kiss it… And I could just kiss you for
hours… it feels so nice.” Women love to hear about the DETAILS,
remember?

6. Let go of expectations. Without expectations around sex, we are free to more naturally savour the experience … however it is! We can be more open to the experience and learn more as a result. Without expectations we free ourselves from disappointment. Here’s a trick … see if you can implement these techniques to improve your sex, without caring whether they work!

7. Tell her stories, and describe what you’re going to do to her. If she’s getting turned on, take a few minutes to whisper in her ear exactly what you’re going to do to her. “You know what I’m going to do next? First, I’m going to slowly and gently kiss your shoulders… and then work my way up to your neck… smelling your sexy perfume… mmm… you smell soooo good… then, I’m going to kiss you deeply…” Get it? Also tell her what feels good in the same detailed way. Use a soft, slow, deep tone of voice.

8. Be present. Don’t let the mind wander or engage in pointless internal chatter. Don’t let your fantasies and thoughts take you further from the experience at hand. Be in the present experience and the present moment.