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How to Read Body Language Signals

6 January 2012 No Comment

If the eyes are the windows of the soul, then the body is the mirror of our emotions. If we are feeling great it shows in how we hold and use our body.
Conversely, if we look at someone else’s body we can often tell how they are feeling by the signals their body is giving.

Body Language Signal and signs of lying:

• Open arms:
o Energetically open and possibly feeling vulnerableBody Language Signs
o A good way to show you are approachable, especially when
combined with open palms
• Palms up/open hands:
o Defences down
o An open heart
• Palms on chest – When a person uses open palms that occasionally
touch their chest, they are signalling honesty
• Outward, upward hand movements – This conveys an open and
positive message
• Folded arms:
o A defence mechanism that shows the person is not open to what
is being said or done
o May mean rejection
o Physically cold
o Stubborn in their outlook
• Hands closed – A closed heart
• Doodling – Bored
• Fist:

o Anger and to be avoided
o Physically cold
o Very tense
o Defiant or triumphant when held in air
• Feet under the chair – A sign of eagernessbody-language-signs-2.jpg
• Looking around:

o Wants to get away
o Thinking about something else
o Bored with situation/conversation
• Stroking chin – evaluating
• Mirroring – This is evidence of two people getting on really well.
Each person copies the other’s body language, usually subtly.
Mirroring occurs with:
o Breathing
o Gestures
o Eye movement
o Leaning towards each other at the same time
o Crossed or uncrossed legs
o Speech pattern
o Arm movement, or no arm movement
o Emotive energy such as being excited, relaxed, etc.
Note: If you practice this with somebody the key is to be subtle and
not be a copycat. There is a natural rhythm to the process, which is the
• Yawning:
o Bored
o Tired and that may have nothing to do with the
• Preening – This shows someone knows they are attractive
For example, flicking or stroking their hair or adjusting a collar and/or
a tie.
• Ear Tugging:
o Indecision
o Possible deception
• Puffing out chest – this has nothing to do with silicone implants. Men
do this when demonstrating their attraction to someone.
• Nodding – The occasional nod from a listener to a speaker is a
positive message. It is an indication they are listening and are
• Too much nodding – This indicates the listener has lost interest and
may be bored. (Probably where the saying ‘nodding off to sleep’ came
• Chopping hands down – This is an aggressive act, usually used to
• Body space – Respect for the other person’s body space is crucial in
gaining their trust. Stay at least one arm’s length away from them.
Striding briskly:
o An outward display of confidence
o Anger
• Gentle leg shaking:
o The person is mildly stimulated
o May need to go to toilet
• Vigorous leg shaking:
o Reveals apprehension and nerves
o Desperate to go to the toilet
• On toes – Eagerness
• Clears throat:
How to Read Body Language
o Anxiety
o Has a cough/sore throat
o Habit
• Pretends to kick imaginary things on ground – frustrationbody-language-signs-3.jpg
• Open feet – reflecting and giving attention.
• Flushed cheeks:

o Indicates interest in the other person
o Embarrassment (usually temporary)
• Dilated pupils:
o Interested in someone.
o Focussed
o High on drugs
• High blink rate:
o A person who has an interest in someone will have an increased
blink rate.
o Nervousness
o Assessing
o Has an eye disorder
• Backwards moving:
o Rejecting
o Escaping
• Moving away – Sometimes there is no hidden meaning or possible signs of lying.
• Slumped posture:
o Bored
o Low self-esteem/confidence
• Legs entwined – A woman who is interested in someone will often
cross and uncross her legs when seated.
• Gazing – A woman will gaze long enough for someone to notice then
will quickly look away. Her mouth may open and lips slightly wet.
• Low voice – When interested in someone a woman may speak in a
low voice.
• Running hand along leg – sexually interested in the other person
• Running hands along legs:
o Really sexually interested in the other person
o Getting ready to leave
• Directly facing you with open stance – The person is interested and
you have their attention.
• Drumming fingers:
o Impatient
How to Read Body Language
o May be a drummer
• Open mouth:
o You have said something outrageous and their jaw has dropped in
o The person has tried to interrupt the conversation to get a word in,
but you haven’t paused and signs of lying.
o May be a sign of attraction
• Tilt of hips – Sign of attraction and a good flirting tool
• Finger pointing:

o Sign of assertiveness
o Sign of aggression
• Open legs – Receptive to the other person
• Staring:
o Defiance
o Sign of aggression
• Looks you in the eyes without staring – Confident, self-assured.
• Doesn’t look you in the eyes:
o Lack of confidence
o Is being deceptive
• Standing upright – reflects inner confidence and comfort level.
• Chewing fingernails – Nerves. The person is not feeling secure. If
they swallow, there may not be enough calcium in their diet.
Quick and animated arm and hand movements – Lying
Note: Many honest, passionate people also do this.
Darting eyes – deception.
Shifting eyes – At the very least may be a lack of confidence or at
worst it is indication of a deception. Definitely means deception when
combined with a nose rub and ‘umms’ and ‘ahhs’.
People tend to look down and to the left when lying.
Running fingers through hair:
o Frustration
o Preening


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