How to Boost your Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
“Emotional Intelligence (EI), often measured as an Emotional Intelligence Quotient (EQ), describes an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one’s self, of others, and of groups. It is a relatively new area of psychological research. The definition of EI is constantly changing.” <Wikipedia>
What is “EQ” and how do you measure it?
IQ is a measure of one’s cognitive abilities, and has been quantified and validated by scientists since the first decades of this century. IQ measures spatial and mathematical reasoning, verbal comprehension, information and memory.
To measure one’s emotional functioning is a more complicated task. First, one has to precisely define the components of emotionally intelligence. Then, one has to design questions that can be scientifically validated as measuring what they set out to measure.
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is a new and better way of measuring an individual’s chance of success in life. The higher your EQ, the greater your ability to manage your feelings and deal effectively with others, the greater your chances are for a happier life.
How can you boost your Emotional Intelligence?
- 1. Develop Your Emotional Self-Awareness. One of the best ways to develop your awareness of your own emotions is to meditate. Another good way to become more aware and accepting of your emotions is to keep an emotional journal.
- 2. Know yourself well through the use of assessment tools to understand your strengths and vulnerabilities. Be honest with yourself. Acknowledge your negative
- 3. Take responsibility for your actions and feelings. It’s important that you accept the emotions you’re feeling as yours. Often we can regard certain feelings as unacceptable and refuse to acknowledge them. This will lead to trouble as we still continue to act from our emotions even if we deny them to ourselves
- 4. Talk with other people about your strengths and how to improve any weaknesses. Examine your own feelings rather than the actions or motives of other people.
- 5. You are not your emotions. There are no “bad” emotions. Whatever you feel is giving you valuable information: either about the situation that you’re in, or about some event that’s happened in the past that you need to learn from and move on.
- 6. Increase positive feedback to yourself, to others. Learn to reframe negatives. Increase your appreciation of yourself and others.
- 7. Use hypnosis to improve your emotional intelligence. Self hypnosis is a form of deep and creative relaxation. Once you clear out all the noise and enter hypnosis, your unconscious (subconscious) mind becomes more open. Our unconscious is where we store all of our feelings about ourselves and the world around us. Hypnosis allows us to get inside and better understand our feelings and their resulting actions. With hypnosis you can become more in tune with your feelings and aware of the feelings of others, boosting your emotional intelligence and bring harmony into your life
If we understand and control our emotions, we can improve the quality of our lives!