How To Become A Most People Person

Posted on October 24, 2007
Filed Under Personal Development

•Accept people for what and who they are.

•Show people appreciation for the things they do.

•Praise people to develop new habits in them.

•Compliment a person or something they own.

•Build a support network, you might need it later!

In this article I am going to talk about how you can become a person other people like and want to be around.

Accept them for who they are

From childhood we are all very aware when we are accepted or rejected by another person. When interacting with other people you should therefore make every effort to accept that person for exactly who they are, without judging or putting them down.
The easiest way to show acceptance is simply to smile. When you smile at another person you not only tell them you accept them for who they are, but you also raise their self esteem by making them feel good about themselves. This good feeling will then be associated with you, and the person will want to be around you because you make them feel good.
At the same time smiling also causes your body to release endorphins, which are chemicals that will make you feel good.

Say thank you

Showing appreciation when someone helps or assists you, is an excellent way to ensure they will do it again.

Appreciation is universal, which means people from all the different countries in the world do it, and so should you!

Give praise

Recognizing when someone has done something well and then praising them for it, is one of the best ways to develop new habits in people and raise their self esteem. To do this you must continually praise the person whenever they do something you would like to see repeated, until it becomes a habit. If you would like to maintain that habit, then give praise every 2nd or 3rd time they do it. This technique is often used by teachers on children, but it is also very effective in relationships.
However in order for praise to be effective it must be immediate and specific, if praise is delayed the effect will be reduced. It is also important that your praise is genuine and sincere.
You must therefore only give praise when it is truly deserved, as false praise will be seen as manipulative and will not work.

Give a compliment

No matter what country you are in there is one thing all people like to hear, a compliment!

There are two ways you can compliment a person:

I- Compliment them on personality characteristic

If someone you know is a genuinely kind and nice person, tell them what a nice person you think they are and how you appreciate them for being that way.

People are proud of who they, and if you compliment them on certain characteristic they have, that person will remember you for it.

Maybe you can remember a time when someone said something nice about you?

II – Compliment them on their possessions

People attach great emotional significance to their possessions, the most obvious example of this are men and cars or women and clothes.

If you compliment a person’s possessions, what you are really doing is indirectly complimenting them, and if the compliment is genuine they will like you more for saying it!

Build a support network

No matter who you are, and no mater what you have, at some stage of your life you will in someway need the help of another person. The trouble is, you don’t know what help you will need or who will help you.
This is why it’s extremely important for you to help as many people as you can, because by doing so you will create a network of people that you can call upon for help and assistance in times of need.
This principle can be seen in the movie “The Godfather” where Don Corleone became the Godfather by doing favors for other people and then saying “perhaps I will be able to call upon you for a kindness someday?”.
Later he was able to return to those people when he needed their help, and the more people he helped the bigger his network grew and the more powerful he became.
However when you help people you must do so with no immediate expectation of return and provide them with the best help you can, as weak service will ultimately produce a weak network.

Final thoughts

Nobody likes to be around a miserable, grumpy person who is always complaining or criticizing other people. If you can apply the tips you have read in this article and concentrate on becoming a genuinely nice person with a desire to help others, you will find people will start to like you more and want to be around you.

Remember, practice the law of sowing and reaping and do onto others what you would like done onto you!