“Research suggests that as many as 8 out of 10 employed adults are in the wrong job or career!”

Career goal setting is an excellent way to motivate yourself and achieving your career dreams. They keep you motivated to live life to the fullest and to get what you want out of it.

Here are 7 successful - strategies to help you set career goals:

1. Start with a positive attitude.  Hope, optimism and enthusiasm have a magical effect on goal setting and the way you think.

2. Set realistic goals.  Try to achieve them with the help of a real career plan that will meet all your needs. Be explicit about what you want and have it thoroughly reviewed to ensure achievability factors. To manage your expectations, set reasonable goals that can be worked on and achieved.

3. Analyse and evaluate professional skills.       If you are employed, unemployed, considering a career change, re-entering the job market or recently graduated, the first step to identifying your career potential needs an objective analysis and evaluation of your capabilities.

4. Sell yourself. Learn the fine art of self-promotion. You need to implement an effective marketing strategy to increase your visibility and gain a competitive edge. If you have had major accomplishments or created successful programs, make sure people know about it — especially those in influential positions who could help you advance professionally. Let it be known that you are seeking a promotion or the next step up in your career. Read more

Spending time with oneself in some fruitful introspection is something that many people want for, but unhappily do not find time for the same. When this solitude becomes loneliness, it can get problematic. Finding original friends is not at all hard provided you hold an available psyche and be sure of yourself. Always remember that tomorrow’s friends are in fact today’s strangers. So if you are looking for tips for making new friends, read further tips.

We take some ideas and suggestions for how to have real friends:

1. - Look accessible. You need not dress up in dandy clothes or wear loud make up to attract people. More than artificial make up, simplicity attracts people. Smile often, make eye contact, do not look too tensed and listen to what others have to say.
2. - Accept people the way they are. Unneeded faultfinding, critically analyzing each individual will not work if you want to make new friends. No one is perfect; you are not either. Everyone has faults and the way to make friends is by looking at the positive aspects of the individual. In case you do not like someone’s behavior, it is better to avoid than create a rivalry.
3. - Create your own opportunities. For example: begin a neighborhood weekly or monthly potluck meal; join or organize a walking club; volunteer to help with a local organization; organize a discussion group on literature,religion, or politics; get a dog and take it for walks; teach someone a hobby or skill, (woodworking, needlework, etc.) Read more

These are the psychological secrets of the experts, the tricks of the trade – factors that can affect your judgment and decision in objectively evaluating information.

1: You are Just Like Me
• Watch out when you are asked about your hobbies, hometown, values, favorite foods, etc., only to be followed with the obligatory “Me too, what a coincidence.”
• Another aspect of this rule is that if someone is nice to us, we not only like him more but also are more likely to agree with him. If he is agreeing to everything you say, whether or not it makes sense, watch out.
• Rapport creates trust. It allows the other to build a psychological bridge to you. You feel more comfortable and your gullibility increases. Take note if your movements, rate of speech or tone are echoed.

2: Beware the Stranger Bearing Gifts
When someone gives us something, we often feel indebted to him. When you are presented with a request, make sure that you’re not acting out of a sense of obligation. This rule can take many forms – it is not limited to gifts.
You could be offered information, a concession, or even someone’s time. Read more

  What is the Killer Compliment? It is commenting on some very personal and specific quality you spot in someone. A Killer Compliment is not “I like your tie” or “You’re a very nice person.”
A Killer Compliment is more like “What exquisite eyes you have,” (very specific) or “You have a wonderful air of honesty about you,” (very personal).
Learning how to give such a killer compliment is one of the best things to have in your social tool belt. It can do wonders for relationships. It can take them to the next level and open doors you never dreamed possible.

• - Deliver your Killer Compliment to the recipient in private. If you are standing with a group of four or five people and you praise one woman for being fit, every other woman feels like a barrel of lard. If you tell one man, he has wonderful carriage, every other feels like a hunchback. You also make the blushing recipient uncomfortable.
  

• - Make your Killer Compliment credible. For example, I am tone-deaf. If I am forced to sing even a simple song like “Happy Birthday,” I sound like a sick pig. If anyone in earshot were foolish enough to tell me they liked my voice, I would know it was hogwash.
  

• - Confer only one Killer Compliment per half year on each recipient. Otherwise you come across as insincere, groveling, obsequious, pandering, and a thoroughly manipulative person.
  

• - At the end of the conversation, look the individual right in the eye. Say his or her name and proceed to curl all toes with the Killer Compliment. Read more

The Internet is just another way for men and women to meet. On the Internet, you have to be prepared for the added risk of meeting someone who will do hurt to you. This does not mean that you should not take the risk. Of course you can—just keep your eyes as open as your heart.

• Watch out for lies and embellishments There are certain things which people commonly lie about within their profile. The most common include: Height, weight, age, and occupation. Also be aware that people may embellish a little bit about themselves to make themselves sound better. For example, they may over exaggerate their travel experience, college education, etc… As mentioned before, even some pictures can’t be trusted. Some people use old photos of themselves because they looked better back then. Most important, be aware that some people lie about their relationship status. Married people have been known to state they are single on online dating sites.

• Be careful about sharing your email As mentioned, most online dating sites allow you to use an anonymous internal communication system. Make sure you take full advantage of that. If you do start to feel comfortable with someone and would like to share an email address with them, don’t use your regular email address. Set up a free email address that you use strictly for your online dating activities. You can easily obtain one through yahoo, hotmail, gmail, etc… Read more

Why is it so difficult to say no?

However, those which already experimenter these feelings know that to not say is not always easy. Most of the time, to answer by the affirmative is much easier, and especially much less alarming. It is well for fear one speaks. It is often the fear which blocks us, and prevents us from posing our limits.

- Fear of being judged:

Some consider that to say not is equivalent to a consent of weakness, and they are afraid to be judged consequently. If I refuse to take this additional file, I will pass for lazy,and good-bye my promotion. If I refuse to go to this evening, I will pass for a kill-joy.

- Fear of the conflicts: While saying not, some have the impression to hold head with their interlocutor. They then prefer to say yes, with the proviso of avoiding the troubles at all costs.

- Fear of wounding:

     To wipe a refusal is not always pleasant. Consequently, it arrives at some of saying yes with an only aim of not disappointing their interlocutor. Those in this case are resigned to saying yes because they are estimated responsible for the disappointment of the other.

- Fear of disappointing:

      Some think absolutely essential, and are considered extravagant obligations towards the others. It is the case of that which does not miss any evening because “without me, they will not have fun as much”.

Benefit of no

Most of the time, these fears are irrational, and are the reflection of a problem of assertion of oneself. However, used with parsimony, not can be very beneficial.

- To save time: If you refuse with your owner the tasks which do not return to you, if you refuse to return to you to one evening which does not interest you, you release from the spare time, and are a little a more Master of your timetable. I am sure that you would not be against one or two hour free in from time to time, if?                              Read more